I wonder why I do the things I do. I say, "YES!" to play dates only to remember the mess they bring. I bend over backwards to make other people happy, to help and support them, with no "thanks" given in the end. Well, my friends, today, I had a thought. I am going to say, "NO!" It is okay to say no. Everyone else says it, and so today, I am going to say it.
I took my children to school lunch, and afterward they asked if we could go to the park. Well, I said yes to them only to say no to the housework that was waiting for me. When I pulled up to the park, my phone rang. It was Nick, my awesome second half. We call each other throughout the day to say, "I love you" and to see how one's day is. I started crying. What is wrong with me? The tears are just flowing down my cheeks as we discuss the happenings of the morning. This is when I decide to be selfish, to take care of ME first, and others second. Yes, of course, I am still going to be the same chipper supporter, only with some reservations on invites, and encouragement. Does this make sense. Sometimes in my head, I can not express the same way on screen. So, here's to me and you. Take time for yourself.
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I feel the same as you Heidi. I have been saying no more often lately and it feels so good. I have seen people who really breakdown because they take on too much and it's just now worth it. I will not be that person. Yeah for ME time!! I think I'll go have some right now! Good luck on saying "NO"!
ReplyDeleteGirl, you have to make time for yourself, even with four kids. Doing so will make you a better mom (not that you could get any better!) and will make you feel better about yourself and allow you to relax. You have the right and deserve to say "no" once in a while...and to say "yes" to yourself. That's not necessarily being selfish; that's being kind and loving to yourself--which in turn will help you to be kind and loving to others (of course, you already are). I love you and if you ever need to vent, you have my digits, sister! xo
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